Choosing a House – Do Your Kids Get a Vote?
Choosing a House – Do Your Kids Get a Vote?
Although your grandmother probably couldn’t wrap her head around the idea, today’s parents are approaching house hunting with a fresh viewpoint—one that includes their children. For older generations, parents made every decision on their own. But now it’s common for Mom and Dad to ask their kids to weigh in before choosing their new family home. At Ernest Homes, we’ve been watching this trend grow—and the insights are fascinating.
What Kids Say They Want in a New Home
When surveyed, children shared several priorities for what they’d love in their next house:
- Their own bedroom – 57%
- Large backyard – 34%
- Park or playground nearby – 25%
- A particular school – 24%
- To live close to friends – 24%
- A swimming pool – 21%
These preferences don’t just sound cute—they genuinely influence decisions. Over 55% of homeowners with kids under 18 say their children’s opinions impacted the home they chose. Among Millennials (ages 18–36), that number jumps to 74%. And for families moving from apartments to their first homes, the impact rises to 83%.
Is Letting Kids Weigh In a Good Idea?
Experts say children can benefit when they feel included. Chicago clinical psychologist Ryan Hooper explains that allowing kids a “vote” can reduce stress and help them feel more in control during a major life change—especially if they’re leaving behind a familiar school, neighborhood, or friends.
However, he cautions parents to avoid overpromising. If none of a child’s wishes are fulfilled, they may feel disappointed or unheard.
Ways to Involve Younger Kids
For toddlers and younger children, keep things simple. Rather than asking for a wish list, guide them through easy decisions:
- Which room feels like “their” room?
- Where should their toys go?
- Which artwork or favorite item will hang on their new wall?
Ways to Involve Older Children
Older kids can participate more thoughtfully. Their preferences matter, but this is also a great time to teach valuable life lessons such as budgeting, needs vs. wants, and long-term thinking. Discuss real trade-offs:
- Pool vs. more family outings
- Bigger yard vs. shorter commute
- More bedrooms vs. a preferred school district
Find the Right Balance
If you choose to include your children in the decision-making process, be ready to negotiate. A trampoline instead of a pool. A bright bedroom instead of a park next door. Living near friends instead of getting a private room.
When every family member feels heard and involved, the move becomes less stressful and more exciting—setting the stage for a happy start in your new Ernest home.
