Helping Your Children Adjust to Your Move
Updated December 2025
In today’s rapidly changing world, families find themselves moving more often than ever—whether it’s across town, across the country, or to another part of the world. As parents, you’re the ones making the decision to move, and your children have no choice but to follow your lead. For some kids, adjusting to a move can be challenging.
Very young children often adapt quickly. If they haven’t yet established close friendships or deep roots in a school or community, starting fresh can be relatively easy. Preschoolers and early elementary-aged children usually bounce back faster than older kids who have spent years building friendships and routines.
Keep in mind that no two children react the same way. One child may feel angry about leaving a sports team or a significant relationship, while another may worry about finding new friends or activities. Still another may feel excited about the change and eager for a fresh start.
There are several ways to help reduce stress and support your children through this transition.
Don’t Keep It a Secret
Child development experts agree that giving children as much time as possible to adjust to a move is important. Once the decision is final, talk about it openly. Continue bringing it up in conversation so the move feels real and expected, not sudden.
Share as many details as you can and answer questions honestly. Be prepared for a range of emotions, and respond with patience and reassurance.
Take a Tour
If your new location is within driving distance, plan a weekend visit. Explore the area, stay overnight, and look for fun activities. If you’re buying a home, consider touring homes together and asking for your children’s opinions so they feel involved.
If the move is farther away, research your new town together online. Look up schools, parks, sports, and attractions. Helpful resources like this guide on helping kids handle a move can also provide reassurance.
Let Your Child Express Their Feelings
Encourage open communication and acknowledge their emotions—whether sadness, anger, or fear. Let them know it’s okay to feel uncertain.
Sharing your own feelings can help, too. Just be sure to balance honesty with optimism by focusing on new opportunities and experiences the move can bring.
Involve Your Children in the Moving Process
Allow kids to pack their own belongings when appropriate and help decide what to keep, donate, or discard. Having control over their personal items can reduce anxiety.
Once you arrive, let them make choices about their new space—such as wall colors, bedding, or décor—to help them feel settled.
Facilitate Introductions When Possible
If you know families in your new area, see if you can arrange introductions before the move. Even a brief video chat or email exchange can make a big difference when kids arrive.
Take Breaks When Needed
The weeks before and after a move can be overwhelming. Make time for rest, fun, and family activities. Exploring your new area together can help turn stress into excitement.
Resume Normal Routines Quickly
Getting back into daily routines—school schedules, meals, and bedtime rituals—helps children regain a sense of stability and comfort.
Stay Connected to Old Friends
Encourage kids to stay in touch with friends through calls, texts, or video chats. When possible, plan visits. Maintaining these connections can ease the emotional transition.
If your move brings you to the Savannah, Richmond Hill, or Effingham County area, be sure to explore Ernest Homes communities and find a place where your family can truly feel at home.
